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Dear reader,

I'm gonna talk about genuinely the unsexiest thing imaginable. But it's so important because there's a very good chance it's not only impacting you, but costing you in ways that you don't even realize. And that is your self-abandonment.

And before you protest (vehemently or ahem tepidly haha), “I don't self-abandon!”, let me ask you, how frequently do you walk on eggshells?

Self-abandonment is so much more common than you likely realize. And here's the rub.

You're conditioned for it from a young age, so it feels normal to you. I'm here to tell you it's not normal. But, it is common – in all sorts of ways.

From being hyper-independent, to a perfectionist, to chronically fixing everything, to being an overdoer, to needing to prove yourself, to performing, to be liked. All of that is self-abandonment.

• Walking on eggshells
• Being terrified to rock the boat
• Sweeping things under the rug
• Keeping the peace at all costs, especially when it costs you the most
• Feeling really distressed if you upset somebody or they don't like you or misunderstand you
• Overexplaining

They all point to one very inconvenient truth: that you were conditioned to give yourself away in order to keep yourself safe and maybe even survive.

Once you can look your self-abandonment in the face, understand the power it has had over you and what this conditioning has cost you, you’ll understand you have only one option: and that is to truly CHOOSE YOURSELF.

No one else can do this for you. This is an intimate decision only you can make for yourself–and I urge you to do so because what you find on the other side of self abandonment? It’s everything. The contrast of going from survival mode and chronically proving yourself to chronic peace, sovereignty and emotional freedom? It can only really be experienced - like going from being in a harsh, cold, windy climate to a warm bath, radiated by sunshine. It's safe and beautiful and feels SO GOOD.

For the girl that's self-abandoned to FINALLY choose to live life on her own terms: it's here for you sister. Just claim it.

xx, Andrea 🤍

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HeartState Mastery with Andrea

Should you decide enough is enough and you’re ready to quit self abandoning and live your life on your own terms, I’d be honored to walk with you.

These patterns don't live in your head. They live in your body. Knowing better is not the same as feeling safe.

I know, because I tried to think my way out for years. I read everything. I understood everything. I could explain the psychology of self-abandonment and then abandon myself in the very next conversation.

That's the work I do 1:1 inside HeartState Mastery: eleven sessions to rewire your nervous system and your belief system, so you stop proving and finally come home to yourself.

You will build deep self-trust, learn to love and care for yourself, and feel better than you have in a long, long time. Probably ever, if I am being radically honest.

"I'm more willing to sit with my thoughts and emotions instead of immediately trying to fix them or push them away. I'm learning to give myself more grace, and to trust that I don't have to have everything figured out right now." - HeartState Mastery Client

"As a fellow recovering double-A type perfectionist, I've appreciated your candor from the moment I came across one of your interviews. The recent opportunity to sit with you was one of those synchronistic moments that was a profound blessing: exactly what I needed, exactly when I needed it." - HeartState Client

Book a free call with me and let’s see if we’re a good fit.